Think back to the lazy summers of our youth , what made it so different from our lives today , apart from the obvious bills to pay , rent to find , health issues, financial worries and work woes?
We were free . Free from the constant connection to something , there was nothing but us . No social media, no adverts telling us what we needed , no designer clothes , no phones , no selfies, no Disneyland , no daytime television , gaming , no junk food , no noisy battery filled toys , no homework , no after school clubs , no competition. No pressure .
We had no "stuff" to worry about , obsess over , or whine for .
It's the first week back at school next week and my diary is already bulging with party invitations and after school stuff even though I have culled a few activities during the school holidays .
I now try to focus my kids time on what they love doing with any after school activities , choosing quality over quantity , this allows more time in their week for parties or play dates and to still allows my kids plenty free time just to relax and recharge at
home .
I also try to be more present by switching off the internet on my phone for the full day if I'm at home and try to leave my phone at home when I'm out with the kids so I'm more focused on the present , and to be honest it feels quite liberating . I also sometimes need to put my phone away in a drawer and only check it twice a day when I'm at home to avoid the social media temptation .
If I have five minutes for a coffee I pick up a crossword or read instead of checking my phone and it's far more relaxing than reading about someone else's rose coloured day .
We might not be able to fix all the distractions of our full to bursting lives , but we can go some way to simplify what we can for ourselves and our kids . We can stop making our kids so busy , stay in the present , stop filling up the "free" time and just slow down . If our kids are lives constantly over burdened then so are ours .
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